I feel sad when I think of my uncles passing. The saddest part is that he didn't lead a memorable life. He did shift work in a steel company his whole life and when he retired he got sick and spend his last years sitting at home waiting to die. And he is not alone, so many people live like that. They work hard all their lives - they dream of a better future, which always seems just a little bit out of reach - then they retire, get sick and die before they ever had the chance

You feel empty, hopeless, trapped and can't see a way out, yet nobody would even notice something is wrong because you are pretty good at pretending. Does that sound familiar? You are not alone - it seems we have an epidemic of "pretenders". The mask goes on when you are interacting with others. It's common for people to show themselves from their best side at work or when meeting friends or even strangers. But what goes on deep down can be an entirely different story. I hear